Prematurity Awareness Month

November is Prematurity Awareness Month, and yesterday (the 17th) was International Prematurity Awareness Day.

Premature birth creates a complicated paradox. It is devastating and a time for celebration. How could we celebrate when our baby lay in intensive care? Should we feel guilty for being devastated when our baby was surviving?

My little girl was born 7 weeks early. As soon as she  was born she was taken away. I heard her cry but didn’t see her properly. No chance to touch her, make that first connection. It hurts me deep inside to know her first experience of life were fear and pain, not love and familiarity. I will never forget how completely defeated I felt immediately after her birth, my world has collapsed.

Aside from all the treatment and medical interventions, premature babies and parents need each other.

Our T*, an hour old


Taking the time it takes…

If anyone had ever told me while I was pregnant that my little girl wouldn’t be sitting unaided at the age of 2, I’m really not sure how I would have felt. I sometimes wonder what other people make of our situation, I sometimes get the weird feeling that we are out of touch with the general baby-raising population, floating above them in our bubble. Many people find it difficult to relate to us and I think its because of a few reasons.

Firstly, its the perceived ‘hippy’ thing. Breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby-wearing, attachment parenting, baby-led…it scares people.

Secondly, no matter how beautiful and bright and funny our little girl is, there is clearly issues. It must be awkward for them, not knowing what to say

And lastly, its our attitude. We are easy, we don’t believe in too much pressure. We just rolling along. We were planning on home edding anyway and kind of makes even more sense now.

So on the surface I guess we are living life from a very different viewpoint. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt is that you’ve just got to take the time it takes. There’s no winning post in life, success in life is about how happy you are. We plan on being very happy!!

We are busy this week, we are attending the Heart of the Dragon Festival this weekend so are working on some costume type stuff. It’s nice to go out as a family, just hope the weather is nice for us.